Our living expectations seem to get more and more extreme as the years past. Our parents, teachers, bosses, and others around us are expecting us to manage a life that is almost impossible to live. Our parents expect us at a young age to go to school Monday-Friday, come home do our homework, house work, and have time for fun, shower and bed. Then when we get into the high school years they expect us to manage school, get a job, have a social life, get our license, while doing house work and having time for ourselves. As we get older our parents expectations of us grow and become harder to manage. As we get older we have to go to college, work, help out at home, have a social life, while at the same time just living our lives. We are suppose to make our parents happy with getting good grades in school, working, helping out at home, having our social life, and just being kids/teens. Parents expect us kids to manage things that are nearly impossible for kids to do. We can become overwhelmed and stressed and some kids may suffer from depression or anxiety from not pleasing our parents or teachers. Life is no longer just a 1 2 3 thing. Now we have to deal with everyday struggles, please family, teachers, bosses and ourselves at the same time. It’s hard to make everyone happy as well as make yourself happy at the same time. Time management is the most important thing you will need in life.
Live your life the way that you want to live it, don't let people control you or your decisions. You are your own person and no one should ever tell you that you should change. Be yourself, Love yourself for who you are not for who the world wants you to be.
I'm really sorry I didn't post anything recently, I'm going through a rough time and I didn't want to post anything that might dampen someone's mood. But I promise I will start again on Monday, but feel free to ask anything in the mean time
I've liked this guy for about a year. I'm pretty sure he's liked another girl for almost a year. He's a flirt and he sends me mixed signals. I never told him I like him. But, I light up when I'm around him. I get happy and excited and enthusiastic. I think I want to finally tell him I like him. Should I? And if I should how do I? I'm 14 and I've never had my first kiss, been a relationship, etc. He has. But, not a serious one. He used to like me 3 years ago. And I didn't. Now it's reverse.
I would say go for it. You might be surprised, he just may like you to. Guys are hard to read, typically when they pick on you/tease you they like you. Guys are hard to understand. But, I would go for it. It’s better than asking yourself “what if?” I think the best way to tell him is either face to face or on the phone. Texting is okay but I feel like it’s better to hear it out loud. You’re young it’s okay you haven’t been in a relationship or had your first kiss. I didn’t have mine till I was 16. So I say go for it, he might feel the same way.
Do you ever have the feeling that you want to hurt yourself when you’re overwhelmed? You’re truly not alone. Many people see self- harm is a way of coping with their problems. Some people say that it helps them express feelings that they can’t put into words, it distracts them from their lives or it releases their emotional pain. Right after you might feel better even if its for a short period of time. However, the release fades the painful feelings come back and sometimes you just might feel the urge to cut once again.
Self-harm may feel like an addiction to some people, like you want to stop but you don’t know how or you feel like you can’t without completely breaking down. You deserve better and you can get better without having to hurt yourself. There’s many sources of help out there if you truly want to stop. You need to learn to face and overcome whatever you’re facing in your life.
I can’t tell anyone it’s not a good thing to do because I also struggle with it, however, I’m doing anything and everything I can in order to find help and find better ways to cope with my emotional pain and what I am facing. I have struggled with cutting and other forms of self-harm for over 6 years. I know how hard it is to stop but it is possible you can stop doing it. I have stopped and it’s better not to. I know that it seems like you can never stop but you truly can. Help is out there. Whether it’s a best friend, a family member, teacher, therapist or someone. You need to talk to someone about your feelings and they will help you through them. I promise it’s better to talk to someone about how you feel then to take it out on yourself. I do have to say that the thoughts never leave they are always there but you have to learn how to control them and to not listen to them. I am here for anyone who needs to talk to someone about anything. I’ve experienced a lot in 19 years and I am willing to help every one of you
Okay so there is something that I want to address, and it’s sort of personal in a way but it also applies to everyone. Using “gay” “fag” “faggot” “queer” or “homo” as insults or adjectives is horrible. Those words should not be used especially as adjectives like: “that show is so gay” There is no need for it it’s insulting and not needed. People get offended when people use those words. They aren’t acceptable and shouldn’t be used anymore. People need to think about who they are saying it to and who might be affected by it. Everyone needs to start caring and respecting one another. Understanding people around is very important. I don’t understand why people constantly use those words whether they are calling people it or describing something. Yes people are gay or homosexual, that’s acceptable if you know that the person is and your telling someone if you’re just being rude you need to stop and understand what it might do to someone. Think about what you say before you say it.
I’m really sorry that I haven’t been on. It’s not that I don’t care about you guys. I truly care about everyone. And I want to help anyone who may need it. I’m trying my best to keep up with this. If you guys need to talk about something or have questions or need advice please message me. I’m here to help anyone and everyone no matter the situation I will do anything that I can to help you and hopefully make things better for you. Also, please send some topic ideas, I’m not really sure what I should talk about because I don’t know what people want to hear, talk about, or need help on. So please message me anything, nothing is off limits or is to personal, inappropriate, and weird. If you’re thinking about it message it. Don’t care what it’s about because I am here to help everyone of you as much as I can. And if you really need someone to talk to or just be there I will let you text me. I understand a lot of different situations so don’t think you shouldn’t ask cause I wouldn’t understand. I will try to put myself in your shoes and figure out the best solution. I’m your support, your listener, and advice. I love to listen and help and trust me if you don’t want anyone to know I will answer privately I promise just tell me. I don’t judge anyone about anything.
Bullying killed her. There and then, Carmen decided that she couldn’t take the bullying any longer. She planned to stay behind, that evening, after school, and tell her teacher what had been happening. Unfortunately, her decision came too late to save her life.
After lunch, her teacher announced that the school was holding a fire drill. When the alarm sounded, Carmen and the other students filed out of the classroom and assembled in the yard outside. As the teachers read out the roll call, the gang of five girls decided that this was a great opportunity to embarrass Carmen in front of the whole school during the fire drill. They moved over to where Carmen was standing, near a sewer drain, and began crowding the poor girl, getting in her face and nudging her towards the open manhole.
They pushed her and she tripped over and fell head-first down the manhole. When they saw her falling, the girls started giggling and when Carmen’s name was called out, they shouted “She’s down in the sewer!”
All of the other students began laughing. But when the teachers looked down the manhole and saw Carmen’s body lying at the bottom in the muck and the poop, the laughter abruptly stopped. Her head was twisted around at an odd angle and her face was covered in blood. Worse still, she wasn’t moving. There was nothing any of the teachers could do for her. Carmen was dead. When the police arrived and went down into the sewer, they determined that she had broken her neck. Her face had been torn off when she hit the ladder on the way down and her neck snapped when she landed on her head on the concrete at the bottom.
The police hauled Carmen’s body out of the sewer and sent her to the mortuary. Everyone had to stay behind after school while the police questioned all of Carmen’s classmates. The five girls lied to the police, saying they had witnessed Carmen falling down the sewer. The police believed the girls and Carmen Winstead’s death was ruled an accident and the case was closed. Everyone thought that was the last they would hear of Carmen Winstead, but they were wrong.
Months later, Carmen’s classmates began receiving strange e-mails on their MySpaces. The e-mails were titled “They Pushed Her” and claimed that Carmen hadn’t really fallen down the sewer, she had been pushed. The e-mails also warned that the guilty people should own up and take responsibility for their crime. If they didn’t there would be horrible consequences. Most people dismissed the e-mails as a hoax, but others were not so sure.
A few days later, one of the girls who pushed Carmen down the sewer was at home taking a shower, when she heard a strange cackling laugh. It seemed to be coming from the drain. The girl started to freak out and ran out of the bathroom. That night, the girl said goodnight to her mom and went to sleep. Five hours later, her mom was awoken in the middle of the night, by a loudnoise that resounded throughout the house. She ran into her daughter’s room, only to find it empty. There was no trace of the girl. The worried mother called the police and when they arrived, they conducted a search of the area. Eventually, they discovered the girl’s grisly remains.
Her corpse was lying in the sewer, covered in muck and poop. Her neck was broken and her face missing. It had been completely torn off. One by one, all of the girls who pushed Carmen that day were found dead. They had all been killed in exactly the same way and were all found at exactly the same spot. In the sewer at the bottom of the same uncovered manhole where Carmen had met her doom. But the killing didn’t stop there. More and more of Carmen’s former classmates were found dead. It seemed that anyone who didn’t believe that Carmen had been pushed, was eventually found down in the sewer with their necks broken and their faces torn off.
They say that Carmen’s ghost is still on the rampage, hunting down anyone who doesn’t believe herstory. According to the legend, Carmen will get you, whetherit’s from a toilet, a shower, a sink or a drain. When you go to sleep, you’ll wake up in the sewer, in complete darkness, paralyzed, unable to move, hearing cackling laughter all around you. Then, as you scream in horror, Carmen will come and tear your face off.
So be careful who you bully, because you just might find yourself on the receiving end of the curse of Carmen Winstead.
FACT: About two months later, 16-year-old David Gregory read this post and didn’t repost it. When he went to take a shower, he heard laughter, started freaking out, and ran to his computer to repost it. He said goodnight to his mom and went to sleep, but five hours later, his mom woke up in the middle of the night from a loud noise and David was gone. A few hours later, the police found him in the sewer, with a broken neck and the skin on his face peeled off.
Even Google her name - you’ll find this to be true. Repost this if your against bullying
Mental health is brought up in many topics we talk about in this era. A huge part of living in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) community is hearing about our own mental health. There is unfortunately a large difference between the mental health of LGBT people and that of ‘straight’ (heterosexual) people.
We have finally reached a point in our culture that identifying as LGBT is not considered a mental health issue, nor does it mean that because you’re gay you’re automatically depressed – it’s simply who we are. For a long time ‘gay’ was considered a disorder in itself, and although we now understand that it is not, LGBT people are still two and a half times more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, or substance abuse issues throughout their lifetime.
Many things could create such a disparity in mental health issues. The main cause researchers have found is most likely society and how LGBT people are viewed, including that they are discriminated against. Constantly hearing that one is hated, being called a “fag” in the hallway at school, and witnessing people use the word gay as a synonym for stupid everyday can take a toll on a person’s self-esteem and overall mental health.
There are many things people say that may offend LGBT people each day without realizing how offensive their words can be, and many LGBT people feel hatred from within their families, as well. Parents that aren’t accepting of their LGBT child, or even their aunts, grandparents and even partner’s parents, may unwittingly hurt someone with their words and through their actions.
Health care for LGBT people in our society is not always the best. Many people must take multiple recommendations before finding a doctor that truly understands their lifestyle. Sometimes even getting a doctor to listen to them is a huge challenge! Some therapists may automatically jump to the conclusion that a person is depressed because they are bisexual or transgendered, but many of our health professionals are simply uneducated. No one wants to go to a doctor who doesn’t understand or won’t listen, so some people simply don’t ask for help at all. For example, multiple doctors truly believe lesbians are at less risk for STIs, which is, in fact, not true, and so woman who sleeps with women may have to search harder to find good health care and a doctor who help them take proper care of their sexual health.
Have you ever met someone that when you first started talking they hated homosexuals, and all the sudden they take a giant leap out of the closet themselves? It happens in many television shows and movies such as Queer as Folk where ‘gay bashing’ is done by a male interested in males himself. Internalized homophobia can be awful for a person’s mental health, as the person internalizing this hatred ultimately hates themselves and many of the people around them. Self-hatred can cause anxiety, substance abuse, and depression as well as many other mental health issues.
Many families do not believe that their child is LGBT, and some parents may kick their LGBT child out of the house. Straight people with mental health issues tend to be more open with their parents and family and have support to work through whatever problems arise. Due to earlier circumstances of coming out, however, LGBT families tend to not be as strong as a unit, and therefore LGBT people may not lean on their family for support, which may cause mental health issues to worsen
Self harm is a very difficult thing to understand. It is scary to find out that your best friend or sibling is harming themselves. It is even scarier to learn that your child is cutting or otherwise hurting themselves as a way to cope. Most people don’t understand exactly what self harm is; those who do may not know how to help.
Self harm is just what it sounds like. When someone is upset or angry and is unable to cope in other ways, they may hurt themselves. Reasons vary from person to person, and are unique as the individual themselves. “To feel something”, “to cope”, “to make it go away”; all reasons a person who harms may give when asked “why?” The problem lies in the fact that the pain they are trying to rid themselves of never really goes away; the person just keeps hurting themselves for release, whether it lasts a few hours, less, or more. Sometimes a person may become addicted to that feeling, resulting in prolonged and worsening cutting, burning, hair pulling, hitting, biting, or any combination of self-inflicted harmful behaviors.
You may be feeling lost upon discovering a loved one is harming themselves, but friends and family members can help tremendously in recovery. Sometimes it can seem like there’s nothing you can do, like this is a problem much bigger than you, and while it is true that your loved one may need the help of a professional to recover, nothing can replace the aid of those who love us. Here are some tips on helping someone you love that harms:
Do listen to them if they want to talk about it. Don’t yell or punish them for harming. Do ask them if they would like to try counseling. Don’t force them to go to therapy. Do remain supportive of recovery at all times. Don’t harm yourself in order to “show them what it feels like.” Do remember that they don’t do this to hurt you. Don’t take your anger or sadness out on them. Do tell someone if you fear their life or safety may be in danger. Don’t tell others without your friend’s knowledge, when possible.
Try talking to your loved one; being there when they need a shoulder or ear is invaluable. Treat them the same way you always do and respect their wishes to not talk about it, if they choose. Remember that they are the same person you knew before finding out they harm. Although they self harm, they are not a “self harmer”; they have a name and countless traits and identities that are more important than self ham. Maybe they are an athlete, a poet; they are a friend, son or daughter, and are probably both funny and smart. Just as you have been, love them for who they are.
Although it is important to be there for those you love, remember that you also need to take care of yourself. It’s not your fault that your loved one harms themselves; there is something going on it their lives that causes them to seek relief, and you are not to blame for that.
Self Harm is a tricky and touchy subject, but it’s one that needs to be addressed. It might make you uncomfortable, but sometimes we have to work through what makes us uncomfortable to help those that we love and care about. No one is perfect, and that is okay; love is one of the world’s most natural medicines.
i had a thing with my girlfrends bestfriend over the summer. we did so much together, and my girlfrend still dusnt know, even though i think she just wanted to not believe it and forgot about it. i still feel guilty every day and afraid that she's gonna tell people and my girlfriend will break up with me. do i have a right to keep my past to myself and move on to the future? i love my girlfrend more than anythin & i've realized she's the one ive wanted all along. what do i do?
for me honesty is the best policy. the best way to keep a good positive relationship is to communicate and be honest with each other. just talk to her explain to her how much you love her and how much she means to you. She’ll probably get upset, so just comfort her, just make sure she knows how much she means to you. let her know it was in the past and you want to make things work. do anything to make her understand what she means to you and how much you love her. i’m sure she will understand maybe not at first it might take her time, but it is better if she hears it from you not anyone else. <3 lauren
I want to have more friends, I only have like one friend i actually hangout with. How can i become more outgoing and be able to just text someone and be like "hey wanna hangout tomorrow?" I know this is a stupid question but can I please have some advice.
it’s okay to only have one friend that you hangout with. But if you want to be more outgoing and be able to to just text anyone to ask them to hangout. I say just take a chance. Try to text someone that you really want to hangout with and just go ahead and text them. Don’t think about the negatives of what could happen just be positive about it. Believe in yourself. I’m sure they will want to hangout with you. <3 Lauren
i'm in the 8th grade.i've never had a real boyfriend.i've only really liked one guy, still do.i'm not one of the popular athletic girls.he's smart & athletic.i'm more brains than beauty.i know i'm not drop dead gorgeous & i know i'm not ugly.but a lot of other girls are prettier than me.i feel like 'why would anyone ever choose me when they can get that'.i'm not that dream girl who's athletic,beautiful,tall(i'm 5 ft) & outgoing.i'm shy with guys.everyone says confidence is key.how do you get it?
Confidence is something that is easy to get, but the major thing is you need to work on your self-esteem. The way I work on my self-esteem is I look at myself in the mirror every morning and tell myself I am beautiful both inside and out. That is a good thing to start because if you tell yourself that enough you’ll start to believe it. And don’t say who wouldn’t want to be with you or you’re not the dream girl, you’re young you have a long life ahead of you. One day you will find that one guy who loves you for who you are, for your inner and outer beauty. Beauty isn’t the most important thing for a person,the thing that matters is what’s on the inside. If you have the confidence in yourself guys will notice you and all that matters is how you feel about yourself don’t worry about what other people think about you because you will just get caught up in that and it’s not good. So just focus on yourself. Just know that you are beautiful inside and out <3 Lauren